3 steps, which can be harmoniously together with your children.

What I will describe to you the following, my wife and I even tried, found to be good and practice it every day anew. What I tell you in the next few lines, can significantly improve your family life.

1. Look at yourself and your children

Often parents make the following errors: compare. You compare your child with other children. With the boy next door with his siblings, with the children in the kindergarten class ... with whoever: they compare.

You may say that's quite normal! You're right! It is a human reaction. It is responsible for the development of your child but do not help. Let me explain briefly why this is so:

In the comparisons will often stated that your child something that the others already can not riff - although both children the same age! That will not do - right? It is often overlooked that your child requires a completely different field to the other child. "Errors" just come on sooner.

Do so once aware of what your child can have it all. You will find a great deal! Just go to play the "normal daily routines through". Be aware of: Every little step, every word, every spoon to her mouth ... your child has LEARNED! These are commendable achievements! Praise your child for it!

Your child will develop from your praise of unimaginable powers. It will continue to evolve - and you will have your pleasure. Consider again, how are you, what inspires you to more: recognition of a benefit or a comparison with someone who has done something of what is expected of you, even overnight - what you feel, but perhaps not yet in a position?

Do you understand what is a force in this point of view?

2. Do your children courage

Most children with the neighborhood kids, or I know who it is being compared to go their way. You realize that they need to compete. In today's society, unfortunately, even in kindergarten. So small and yet have to be so big.

It is but the childhood of the most crucial time of adolescence! Children immerse themselves in the world, nature, the siblings, the parents. For us adults are very simple things are in the eyes of children extremely important! Watch - and draw their own conclusions.

Then they re-learn something new. And this is exactly what for them is off. And that can vary from child to child seriously! The children keep a critical sensitivity to the reaction of the environment. And here are the first point of contact for YOU!

Yes - you are a mother or father, or the first one to respond to the progress of their child. Sometimes the things that tackles your child have not exactly been "clean". Let's take an example:

You want to feed your child. As always. But it does not open his mouth. Instead, it reaches for the spoon. "Great" you think. "This may indeed be something." They are eager to see how well this will work out. What do you see? More than half of what is on the spoon goes wrong. Under the chair it looks like a very short time, as if someone dumped the entire contents of the dish.

What now?

Make your child the courage to try it further. Praise it for the little, what matters in your mouth! Scold it on ANY case for what lies on the ground. Make yourself clear: it first has to PRACTICE what it has to keep the spoon in order to get something in his mouth!

Do you see what the potential is raised here? Keep the following in mind: If your child have signaled a willingness to learn something like, WANT to learn something. If you discourage it ( "YOU are still too small") are YOU must convince it later on.

Where you have more quickly learned that when you wanted something - or if something should they? There is only ONE point - and yet such a difference!

3) Change your attitude

Take your time - and you support your children with all learning tasks which face their own children! It will think very many - have a go, what you have learned to this day all!

That means: Do not compare - but to make a plea! No matter what task is being addressed! And remember - that changed too!

Now you can say: What should I change it?

Let's eat again to myself-back to learn. Can you imagine that you clean up after dinner under the table? That it does not bother you, again and again when food lands on the floor - and you also want to praise your child for not / should?

Hand on heart, can you imagine that this is easy?
It is - you just have to make over and over again! And what is more beautiful than a happy child's eyes!